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LynneB
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posted 04-08-1999 09:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LynneB   Click Here to Email LynneB     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have been on this BB for a few weeks now and have noticed something rather odd. We all talk about D, and C, and cramps, and BM's and their consistency, etc easily and freely, which is great. But I find myself forgetting that people in general don't openly talk about these things! I feel like I almost have to stop myself sometimes from saying something socially unacceptable to someone. On the cynical side, this is just one more thing that makes us different from non-IBS'ers.
On the positive side - Thank G-D we have each other!
Can anyone else relate to what I'm saying, or am I the only one who notices these weird things?
LynneB (not LindaB)

Ty
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posted 04-09-1999 09:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ty   Click Here to Email Ty     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know what you mean! When I'm chatting with friends on the phone or esp. talking to my Mom, I have to check myself to keep from getting to 'graphic'!!

Ty

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posted 04-09-1999 10:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MSB   Click Here to Email MSB     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi LynneB

I agree with you. I am so impressed with everyone honesty and care for one another. It appears to me that the majority of people on this bulletin board are "special people". I am not quite sure what I mean by that, maybe religious, but not in the "WORDLY RELIGIOUS' sense of the word. I am talking about TRUELY caring about what happens to each other. Wouldn't that make for an intereting POST? .........Are you religious and what does that mean to you? Hey, I feel like Oprah Winfrey talking about Spirituality. I am not making fun. I like her program. I watch it almost everyday. My favorite is FRIENDS though. That would make for another interesting post........What is your favorite program and why? That would give insight into who we were. Ha ha ha

LynneB
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posted 04-09-1999 11:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LynneB   Click Here to Email LynneB     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's true what you say about the people on this board. We all connect on a very personal level made possible by the anonymity of the Internet. I'm sure we are all vastly different as far as interests, lifestyle, religious and philosophical views, age, race, etc. But we have one very important thing that you cannot necessarily get anywhere else - and that is EMPATHY with each other. If you are lucky you can find sympathy elsewhere, but it takes another IBS'er to provide empathy. And I think that is the 'tie that binds us' to each other.
LynneB
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I don't watch much TV, but the one show I am addicted to is 'Party of Five'. And I would watch Oprah if I was home when she was on (4 pm here)

[This message has been edited by LynneB (edited 04-09-99).]

Rob
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posted 04-09-1999 12:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rob     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is funny. I just told my boyfriend, "I had the big D three times on Saturday." and he said, "what's that, some kind of candy?" ha ha ha ha. I try to use the lingo people use on here w/other people and they don't know what I'm talking about! I find that I sometimes start to tell people stuff and get the "WAY too much info" look. I also thinks its the anonymity which allows us to discuss stuff that we might otherwise not.

Friends is my favorite show. Then Law & Order and The Practice.
I am anti- organized religion, but that doesn't mean I'm not a caring person.

Nicol
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posted 04-11-1999 02:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nicol   Click Here to Email Nicol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I never even think to watch what I say unless I don't know the person. I guess that I tend to gross alot of people out without realizing it. Oh well at least I am educating them on IBS.
My fav shows are Friends, Ally McBeal, Stargate and any Star Trek show.
If you want to know why these are my favs then I will tell you but if not the explainations would take forever.

maryt
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posted 04-11-1999 09:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for maryt     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This post makes me laugh. I was just in the hopital for 10 days and when I would talk to the doctors and nurses I used "our" language. Some knew what I meant but most just looked at me funny and asked me what I meant. I even had 1 doctor who said I don't think that I have ever heard of "c" ,how do you treat it. I was rude and laughed right in her face. I almost peed my pants laughing and when I told her what I meant she started laughing as hard as I was. I never thought about what I say on here and how personal it is until now. But I think thats a good thing that we can talk to each other. I like to watch Oprah, my favorite show is ER and Murder , she wrote. I also like to watch the JUDGE JUDY,Miles Lane, Joe Brown and the animal court shows. I always scan the discovery channel and learning network for medical shows on IBS and other things. Have a great day.

JANICE E
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posted 04-15-1999 11:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JANICE E   Click Here to Email JANICE E     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You all enjoy the legal shows! I think Ally McBeal is absolutely hysterical, and The Practice really shows it like it is. And I love that both are set in Boston--I am an attorney in massachusetts. Law and order--can't get into that one, Rob. You may have noted that world renowned Dr. Park Dietz is the psychiatric consultant for the show (was expert witness in John Hinckley case, Jeffrey Dahmer, etc). I was privileged to work with Park for over three years when he was affiliated with McLean Hospital. Now if he could only tell me how to appreciate the show!!!

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Shelley
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posted 04-16-1999 09:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Shelley   Click Here to Email Shelley     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel that we're all family on this BB. We have a connection that no one else has. As for the language, it's kind of like having our own "secret codes", such as the "C" and "D". One night when I was on the BB, my husband was with me reading the posts. He asked me,what is "C" and "D"?
My favorite shows are Rosie O'Donnell, ER, Friends, L.A. Doctors, Chicago Hope, Nash Bridges, and Providence.
Shelley

Wendy Szoke
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posted 04-16-1999 02:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Wendy Szoke   Click Here to Email Wendy Szoke     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi LynneB. I agree with the empathy part of this group. You guys have made me stronger than I have been sense I was told I have possible IBS. Sometimes I can't wait to turn on my computer at work and pull you guys up. Of course I do my work first!
My favorite show is also party of five. Could you imagine if Charlie or Bailey had IBS. They seem to stressed out enough! I guess it would be hard to write that story line

heykate
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posted 04-16-1999 03:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for heykate   Click Here to Email heykate     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is really a great thread and made me think about why I come here and post so often. Recently I had my gallbladder out, and I got more attention and support from this bb before, during and after (both on here and in private e-mail) than I got from anybody in "real" life. I'm honestly not sure I would have gotten through it as well as I did without this bb and the friend's I've made here. I also think that knowing other's suffer like me really helps in this world where *most* people haven't a clue what it's like (and give you THAT look because you don't feel well AGAIN - as if I have any control over it!)

While I started out anonymous here, I have made several *good* friends with whom I have exchanged personal info which has made this less private for me, but a far more satisfying experience! I recently heard a commentary about people who have to find solace on the net and how pathetic that was. Well, my life is far richer because of this bb and the people here - and I'd debate that point vigorously!!

I notice a lot of people like Friends (so do I) - perhaps that's a common thread for us? I LOVE JAG, Frasier, ER, The Pretender and Profiler probably in that order (Friends just after Frasier). (PS - Nicol, I'm also a Trekkie - don't tell anybody, OK? haha)

Thanks LynneB for this thought provoking thread!

Kathy

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