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belfor
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posted 02-23-1999 08:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for belfor     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am going on a trip 4 hours away with a 3 hour shopping trip on the way there, and have made reservation for one room with my friend who is 3 years older. We are 60+.

I take sitz baths 2-3 times per day....and I am worried that she will be in the bathroom when I need to use it. I already got some back talk about a question I had about her routine in the morning. I almost cancelled the whole thing, I was so bruised. Dont I have a right to know what somebody's routine is...it prevents conflicts. I think.

Can I reserve another room at this late date without offending her? I just would enjoy the privacy even though she is great company...most of the time....I think I would prefer to unwind and take s. baths by myself.........Thanks....I am curious what you will tell me......I am so indecisive even though the room will only cost $l9.95. Thanx to everyone who responds. belle :

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LindaB
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posted 02-23-1999 09:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LindaB     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
First I have a question. Does she know about your IBS and need to take the sitz baths? If she does and can't accommodate this need then I say definitely get a separate room.

If you can get one for $19.95 or close, I'd say get a separate room anyway just for the personal space, privacy and needed relaxation. I have friends I love dearly, but God help them if they want to talk before I've had coffee in the morning!

Nicol
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posted 02-24-1999 01:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nicol   Click Here to Email Nicol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Get a seperate room with an adjoining door.
You can keep the door open all the time, but have your own bathrooms and privacy when you need it. Tell her that you don't want to gross her out with your bowel problems. She shouldn't get offended then. Have Fun!

Pattee
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posted 02-24-1999 08:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Pattee   Click Here to Email Pattee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dear Belfour for your peace of mind get an extra room.I love my daughters but it was absolute torture sharing a bath not to mention their bohemium lifestyle,you never know who is going to show up at their apartments.Next visit I will get a hotel room.Let us know how it goes.Love Pattee

JillAnn
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posted 02-24-1999 10:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for JillAnn   Click Here to Email JillAnn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Belle,

For your own sake, get another room!!!! Even if you share a room and nothing 'turns out' to be a problem, you will worry about it!! (I know I would) and that will make your entire trip miserable. Will the cost be any more for your friend if you get your own room?? 20 bucks sounds like nothing for peace of mind!!! If she balks, and she is really your friend, she will listen to an abbreviated story of your symptoms and understand, if not, is she really a person who cares about your fears and is she really your friend??

A stranger once told me at a football game, where it was so sweltering that I had to go under the bleachers, and my husband was mad cause we paid for ticket and I didn't see any of the game, "SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!" Best advice I ever got I think!

Jill

Cher
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posted 02-24-1999 01:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi belfor,
I just came back from a trip and I did not want to stay at my father-in-laws house cause he only had one bathroom and for four people in the house for someone with IBS that can be a little scary, even if there's two of you it can be also. I definately would get the hotel room. Mine cost quite a bit more and I was there for a whole week but it gave me alot more piece of mind and when I wasn't feeling well I just relaxed in my room! It was alot better than having someone else feeling uncomfortable about me not feeling well!
Good luck on your trip! Hope you have a good time! Cher

heykate
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posted 02-24-1999 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for heykate   Click Here to Email heykate     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Belle,

Definitely take the other room. Due to my various things (ibs, fibro, cfs) the last thing I need is another person and their schedules to worry about. I always make it known from the start that I get my own room and bathroom. I've never had a problem, most people are only too happy to accomodate me when faced with my infirmities (actually, it's never been an issue). I would just ask her if she minds very much if you get a separate room because you don't want to subject her to your careful daily routine. You might find she will be relieved not to have to be a part of it!

Quite frankly, Belle, if she's a real friend, she'll understand and accomodate you. My friends all know how odd I am about this sort of thing and take it as part of who I am (with some humor!). Hope it works out for you, let us know what you decide.

Kathy

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posted 02-24-1999 05:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for K   Click Here to Email K     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would explain my problem to her, and then tell her that you don't want to incovenience her, so you're going to get another room. She shouldn't get upset if you explain it to her. K

belfor
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posted 02-24-1999 11:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for belfor     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks loads for your replies...I will get another room. You were all a big help.....lol belle

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